Application-only · New York, LA, SF

Your third plan is where life happens.

Curated offline experiences — dinners, salons, tastings, workouts, art nights. Small gatherings of people you'll actually want to meet.

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5 minutes to apply Reviewed by a human No swiping
Private dinner · SoHo
Private dinner · SoHo
Natural wine · Tribeca
Natural wine · Tribeca
Gallery night · Chelsea
Gallery night · Chelsea
Sauna + brunch · Williamsburg
Sauna + brunch · Williamsburg
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The problem

Your calendar is full. Your social life still feels random.

Most ways to meet people are either too transactional, too romantic, too public, or too much work. ThirdPlan creates small, intentional gatherings of people who actually might enjoy meeting each other.

01

Adult social life is hard.

After school, the natural environments where friendships form quietly disappear.

02

Dating apps are too narrow.

You want social possibility, not pressure, judgment, and fatigue.

03

Networking feels transactional.

Cold pitches, name tags, and a table of people half-looking for the exit.

04

You'd rather attend than plan.

You'd show up to a great night. You don't want to be the one who organizes it.

Four steps to a better night.

Each event is curated by a human. We balance interests, energy, background, and social intent so the group actually clicks.

STEP 01

Tell us about yourself.

Interests, personality, lifestyle, availability, the kinds of people you want to meet.

STEP 02

Pick your vibe.

Dinners, salons, art nights, wellness mornings, private tastings, weekend escapes.

STEP 03

We curate the guest list.

Balanced for interests, energy, age, social intent, and group chemistry.

STEP 04

Just show up.

Details land in your inbox 24 hours ahead. Your feedback makes the next event better.

Experiences

Six categories. Endless mood.

Every category is curated to feel premium without being precious. Pick what fits the week you're having.

Dinner Tables
6–8 SEATS

Dinner Tables

Small curated dinners around a shared theme, lifestyle, or interest.

Founder Salons
10–14 SEATS

Founder Salons

Conversations for builders, operators, investors — no cold pitching.

Taste & Culture
8–12 SEATS

Taste & Culture

Natural wine, chef's tables, jazz, gallery walks, cocktail classes.

Active Social
ACTIVE

Active Social

Pickleball, run clubs, climbing, sauna mornings, Sunday brunch.

Weekend Escapes
PREMIUM

Weekend Escapes

Sailing days, ski weekends, private chef gatherings in the Hamptons.

The story so far

What it adds up to.

Quiet numbers, real nights out. Every member is reviewed by a human; every event ends with a feedback round.

2,400+
Approved members across NY, LA, SF
Dinner conversation
Six-person dinner · SoHo
500+
Gatherings curated & counting
Wine night
Natural wine · Tribeca
94%
Of attendees would attend again
Friends laughing
Cold plunge + brunch · Williamsburg

A better night starts with better curation.

Every member completes a profile. A human reviews each application to keep the community thoughtful, respectful, and high-signal.

Application-based membership
Real identity required
Profile review before approval
No public attendee list
Respect-first community rules
Mutual feedback after every event
Upcoming

This week's line-up.

A taste of what's on the calendar. Members see the full list and apply per event.

THU · 7:30 PM · SOHO

Private Dinner: AI Builders & Investors

For founders, engineers, investors, and operators building around AI. No cold pitching.

$85
3 of 8 spots
SAT · 6:00 PM · CHELSEA

Gallery Night + Natural Wine

For people who like art, design, photography, and low-pressure conversation.

$55
5 of 10 spots
SUN · 10:30 AM · WILLIAMSBURG

Cold Plunge + Brunch Circle

For wellness-curious people who want an active social morning.

$65
2 of 8 spots
WED · 7:00 PM · FLATIRON

Founder Salon: Consumer AI in 2026

A guided discussion for builders, investors, and operators in consumer AI.

$120
Invite only
What ThirdPlan isn't

Not another dating app. Not another networking event. Something else.

ThirdPlan sits between friendship, lifestyle, dating possibility, and professional curiosity. Come for the experience. Stay for the people.

Dating apps

Endless swipes, narrow intent.
  • Romantic pressure baked in
  • One-on-one by default
  • Judgment, fatigue, ghosting
  • Quantity over quality

ThirdPlan

Small, intentional gatherings.
  • + Human-curated guest list
  • + Real experiences, in real places
  • + Friendship-first, possibility-open
  • + Feedback-driven matching

Networking events

Name tags and cold pitches.
  • Anyone with a ticket gets in
  • Salesy, transactional energy
  • 100+ people, zero curation
  • No follow-through
Questions

Things people ask first.

No. We're friendship-first. Romantic possibility is welcome but never the point. You tell us what you're open to during profile, and we match the guest list accordingly.
A human curates every event. We balance interests, energy, background, age, and social intent. Our matching assistant suggests fits; we make the final call.
We review every profile within 48 hours. You'll either be approved, waitlisted, or asked for a little more info. We keep the bar high so the nights stay good.
24 hours before the event you'll receive the exact address, dress code, host info, and arrival instructions. Mystery is part of the experience.
It depends on the event. Each listing tells you exactly what's included — sometimes it's the full experience, sometimes it's the reservation and curation while food and drinks are paid at the venue.
Full refunds 72+ hours out. Credit only between 24–72 hours. No refunds within 24 hours. Premium events have stricter policies, called out on the listing.
New York, Los Angeles, and San Francisco at launch. We're rolling out city by city based on member density and venue partnerships.

Come for the experience.
Stay for the people.

Applications take five minutes. We review every one.

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